Childhood is not a race to see how quickly a child can read, write and count. Childhood is a small window of time to learn and develop at the pace which is right for each individual child.
One thing I have noticed a lot since becoming a parent is just how many of us compare our children with others. From the moment our little ones take their first breath childhood seems to become a competition to some. I was no different, when Shaniah was younger and I went to mother groups I would forever sit there and compare, see what other children around Shaniah’s age were doing that maybe she wasn’t yet and I know it’s not a good thing to do but it’s something we all find ourselves doing.
You get people telling you that children develop in their own time and that there is no set timetable as to when a child should be doing something and of course that is true but you cannot help but compare when even the health visitors have you booked in for yearly reviews! My little one is three now but rewind back to when she had just turned 2 I had a package through the post about her 2 year review, which is all well and good as growing up you do need to have an eye kept on you just in case something doesn’t seem right but within this package was a questionnaire, quite a big one as well. This questionnaire was full of questions asking whether or not your child could do this or whether or not your child could do that so I sat down with little one and we made our way through the questions, there were things like “can your child draw a line from the top of the paper to the bottom after watching you”, “can they draw a single circle”,”does you child put on a shirt/coat by themselves?” I thought my little one was doing incredibly well and doing the questionnaire proved that but there were some things that she couldn’t do take