I wanted to talk to you about something that resonate with me very deeply. The unspoken taboo of taking care of yourself being a mum. It is something that I struggled with after having my first born, and still is something that I have to make a conscious effort to work towards.
My struggle to accept that self care is vital
After having my son, I was so overwhelmed with how much I loved him. I knew I would love my kids, but did not imagine just how much! I felt guilty to do anything for myself. I thought to be a great mum, I had to do everything for my son. I didn’t want to be away from my son, not for one second unless it was aaaaaaaaaabsolutely necessary.
Eventually, I completely neglected myself and could not care less what I looked like! If it was acceptable to run errands in pyjamas, I would. I just didn’t care. I completely forgot how to take care of myself. All my focus and attention was on him.
Having said that, I would dress appropriately if I was going to church or events, however, I didn’t (and still struggles) to accept why I should make efforts if I am not going to anywhere special??? In my mind, I was only completing errands and it didn’t matter. That’s when I’ll see people I have not seen for a while and will suddenly feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. So I guess somehow, I knew it was not appropriate to walk around looking like a zombie just because I am mum.
What changed my mindset